We’ve all at one point or another experienced heart break. It just seems to be an unavoidable event for all women, who are by nature helpless romantics. We’ve all had our ideas of what should be and when reality falls short of fantasy and that’s often by a long mile we end in with an aching pain in our hearts that we believe is never going to go away.
It really doesn’t matter what your story is because whether it’s your husband left you or your boyfriend cheated on you or simply you fell for a married man who never appreciated you it all ends the same. You end up that sobbing mess wondering how now will you go on and what can you do about that hurt lingering in your heart.
And even if you are lucky enough to avoid such situations, you might find yourself faced with a teenage or young daughter who is going through such a rough patch. The worse thing you can tell someone is how it’s silly to be heartbroken and say you’ll get over it because while you may not fully comprehend why she would cry buckets and starve over a man you feel belongs in the gutter, the pain to her is real.
Just look up the work heartbreak on the internet and you can see all the self-destructive acts women turn to just to turn their attention away from the pain. Some turn to alcohol & drugs to lift them from reality, others hop onto lousy men just because they now feel that’s the best they are worth (Kerry Katona and Britney Spears are prime examples), many start abusing themselves with diets and surgeries blaming their ‘physical imperfections’ for their ‘loss’.
And since I’ve been here before, many times in fact I know the wiser. Sometimes relationships end because it’s was a doomed match from the start. Other times some men really are jerks and there’s no explanation for it. But when you experience heart ache, the why and how you got there really isn’t at all important. It is the road to recovery – how I’m going to now get out of the drowning pain that is.
Distraction to me is truly key to getting better, but not distraction through the easy way, i.e: drinking yourself unconscious. Instead come to terms with the loss. Yes the relationship had ended, clearly he never deserved you if he didn’t treat you right. Once you’ve come to terms with that then go all out to make a lifestyle change.
Push yourself to the limit by taking up a painful sport –mountain biking etc or try a new organic detox diet, cut out all processed food especially soda’s if you’re addicted to it – the shock to your body from the changes will be quite a pain but I find it as a way of transferring the emotional pain from heart ache into a physical and mental one that I can subdue with time and determination.
Nature has always had a way of healing and even a quiet moment at the top of a mountain has a way of drying your tears.
The cure to heartbreak is not rocket science, nor is it ever going to come in a pill. It’s about getting a hold of your emotions and taking charge of your life and you do that when go back to nature where she will remind you what is was really all about and what truly is important in life.
