Yesterday we said in many words why break-ups and divorces were bad for the environment. Well that’s the fact, but do you know what else is a fact? This: If you’re in relationship that is abusive, headed nowhere and disruptive to your overall well-being, then regardless of how it turns the environment, make the split and move on.
Now that we’ve got that bit cleared up, here today we’ll share how to lessen the impact on your relationship’s breakdown.
1. When the house is no longer a home
It’s inevitable. A couple whose have split up will eventually have to move on, beginning with new homes. I wouldn’t recommend continuing to live together under one roof for the sake of lowering your carbon impact, but the least you could do is to brush your sourness aside and sit down like consenting adults to split the furniture and other household items. That way you get ‘clean up’ whilst saving on spending on refurbishing. Now I get that this isn’t a perfect solution, but you have to admit, some things are clearly his and some are just yours – don’t keep the foosball table just to spite him. You will find that you need to recomplete your house, and when you are ready, maybe try looking into joining the freecycle network – you know what they say one man’s trash is another man’s treasure (plus restoration projects are a great way to help your healing process)
2. The weeping nights
After the shock settles, you’ll find yourself crying quite a bit. I know it’s so much easier to just use boxes of tissue and then giving them the toss, but instead why not have a stack of handkerchiefs handy? You can just as easily toss them for the wash after.
3. Death by comfort
Moving out of a partnership, especially if you’ve been together for years is not an easy feat. You’ll have to learn everything you knew again, from going to the store to your weekend runs. You’ll be inclined to find a comfort and stick to it to avoid the process of ‘relearning’. That’s when most of us bring out that giant tub of ice-cream and eat ourselves into an expanding belly. Don’t…think about how depressed you’ll be when you’re ready to play the field again only to realize you now have to deal with losing 10lbs of access weight. Brave yourself and learn how to live again as a person. You don’t have to walk back down the same routes you did when you were a couple. If you used to go to the store to get your food supplies, why not try the farmers market?
4. Seclusion to mourn
I’m not sure if we all do it for the same reason, but after a nasty break-up we all just have those days where we want to curl into a ball and hide away from the world. Then we use all that time to over-analyze what went wrong and weep in self-pity. But you know what? Don’t. Sometimes there really isn’t a reason besides we’ve changed and it wasn’t going to work.
Your desire to be alone with your thoughts is not very healthy. Honestly if you’ve been a double for many years then believe me going into the crowd as a single can be very intimidating. . Begin by carpooling if you drive… a little company won’t be so overwhelming.
Lastly…cheer up. As nature would show you, when all the dust has settled, new life forms…
